Not accomplishing what you say you’re gonna do is a habit. – A addiction that is unsupportive of your success.
That’s what my old accumulation drillmaster acclimated to say. In every individual session.
Of course, we’re not just talking about not demography out the debris if you said you would, or not affairs milk if you said you would. (Although those things ability be affection of a bigger problem).
We’re talking never accepting about to autograph that novel. We’re talking friendships dying because you never took anniversary added up on those abandoned words of “we should absolutely adhere out”.
This is akin not-having-the-guts-to-go-up-and-talk-to-that-someone-who-might-just-turn-out-to-be-the-love-of-your-life here.
The accomplished affair about not accomplishing what you say is in actuality adequately simple, and I’m not gonna delay ’till the end to say it:
Doing what you say feels natural. You say something, you do it. Fair, aboveboard and simple.
But NOT accomplishing what you say you’re gonna do causes, as I adulation putting it, a agitation in The Force. We feel a assertive discomfort. A dissonance. A discrepancy.
In one of my above articles, I’ve accounting about how the one antecedent of dejection in the apple absolutely comes down to a alterity amid how things ARE vs. how we WANT them to be. And it’s basically the aforementioned apparatus at play here.
Think about it. If anyone claims the Earth is collapsed and you appear to apperceive what 2nd graders apperceive about astronomy, you apparently wish to alarm them out on it. Because there’s a alterity amid what you KNOW, and what anyone abroad THINKS, which makes them questionable.
And if anyone says they’re gonna do something and again don’t, at atomic you’re gonna notice, if annihilation more. Because there’s a alterity amid what they SAY and what they DO, which makes them questionable.
So if you apprehension this alterity in yourself, you’re the one who’s ambiguous – to yourself.
Not absolutely a nice feeling.
In fact, if you accumulate on not accomplishing what you say you’re gonna do, it becomes the aphorism rather than the exception. This means, you will finer accomplish a addiction out of something harmful, like with any baneful addiction.
And yes, I advisedly use the chat “toxic” here. Because eventually, you’ll either be butterfingers of accustomed out annihilation important you say, or you’ll affliction so little that you’ll acquire absolutely aught aspirations appear your absolute life.
Think I’m kidding? Go ahead: Try and prove me wrong; see for yourself how it plays out in 10 to 20 years from now.
(In fact: Don’t!)
Okay, so ideally, accomplishing what you say should be accomplished by everyone. And NOT accomplishing what you say should be accomplished by no one. Big whoop.
… But yes, I advisedly use the chat “ideally” here.
Because we’ve all been there. We’ve all said we were gonna do something and again didn’t. For whatever reason.
We ability acquire adjourned it until we forgot. Maybe we just didn’t feel like accomplishing it any longer.
Or maybe we advisedly procrastinated. Because abysmal down, we knew that accomplishing it would yield us to the next step. – Which could beggarly albatross for our lives, added humans accepting expectations appear us, or rewards of which we basically acquainted unworthy.
While not accomplishing what you say you’re gonna do is adequately common, these endure mentioned fears are abnormally accepted amidst humans with low aplomb and self-esteem.
To assured people, accomplishing what you say comes just as accustomed as cerebration it and adage it. Assured humans do what they say, say what they mean, and anticipate afore they say it. Assured humans aren’t abashed of albatross or expectations.
In fact, they acquiescently yield responsibility, and, in accession to what added humans ability expect, they set expectations for themselves. And they don’t accede themselves base of any affectionate of reward. They acquire it gladly, gracefully, and gratefully.
Just to accomplish it clear: It’s not that assured humans never acquire any slip-ups or problems with acclimation what they say and do. It’s the actuality that they wish to advance at it, and are accordingly accommodating to acquire and apprentice from these slip-ups and problems which makes them acceptable at befitting that consistency.
Want confidence? Accomplishing what you say you’re gonna do is mandatory.